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Thursday, January 30, 2014

Every Day Is A New Day

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Every Day Is A New Start

Written by Steven Griggs |

“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start”
Nido Qubein

“What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.”                                                                   T.S. Elliot

It’s funny how we have come to see New Year’s Day as the best date to start a new plan or make a new commitment.

But the sad fact is that before the end of the New Year 88% of the resolutions we have made have been forgotten. Well, probably not forgotten but put on the shelf to be done later when the time is right….

The vast majority of resolutions are simply not kept. It’s gotten to the point that even though we all know that no one really keeps a New Year’s resolution we like to go through the charade of believing it anyway.

It’s like we’re all in on a great conspiracy of pretending. If you believe in my fantasy, I’ll believe in yours, that way we enable each other to “believe” in our own fantasies….. . It's almost as if by making the resolution and telling other people about it you've already accomplished it! The bigger the goal the better because you get a bit of pre-glory just by resolving to complete it. It's weird. 
I see it as a symptom of our society’s loose approach to integrity. We don’t really have to keep our promises because we can just change or modify our commitment to match our change of heart. It seems we can always find a good reason or excuse.

Still our lives are filled with beginnings and endings. 

Everything has a rhythm, a beginning and an end, although not all endings are necessarily final, many “endings” are really just a sign that you have reached a certain point and now things need to change.

Knowing and accepting this can be a great help. It helps you let go and understand that there is a flow to life and that embracing this flow is one of the keys to understanding this journey.

Yes, we feel pain when we lose loved ones, when friendships change, when our lives seem to take a left turn and things fall apart.

It can be hard because change is very, very difficult. Our ego personality likes things just the way they are, sometimes even if those things aren't so pleasant, because it craves continuity.

But everything has its season, listen to the Byrd’s classic song “Turn, Turn, Turn” sometime.

The way I see it is that every day is a new day, a new start. But no matter what program or new praxis you have committed to, you have to do it every day.

It’s not like you start on day 1 and poof! you are finished on day 20.

You have to do it one day at a time. Every day has to be lived day by day.

So don’t look back and don’t look forward too much.

Stay right in today.

No matter where  you start, no matter what you have committed to, do it each day and if you get off track tell yourself you’ll start again tomorrow.

Create a discipline and try to stick to it.

Of course we all get off track and screw up.

But so what?

Forget about it.

Don’t beat yourself up. Remind yourself that this is a journey and that goals are not end all’s or even destinations really. They are just things we focus on for a time that take us down the road.

So get back on track, forget about yesterday and move forward one day at a time.

It’s this day to day process of learning, doing right, and striving to be the best you can be that is important.

That is the real goal.

It takes time, probably more than a lifetime.

But that’s why we’re here.

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