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Every
Day Is A New Start
Written by Steven Griggs | stevengriggs.com
“Your present
circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you
start”
Nido Qubein
“What we call the beginning is often the end. And to
make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.” T.S. Elliot
It’s
funny how we have come to see New Year’s Day as the best date to start a new
plan or make a new commitment.
But
the sad fact is that before the end of the New Year 88% of the resolutions we
have made have been forgotten. Well, probably not forgotten but put on the
shelf to be done later when the time
is right….
The
vast majority of resolutions are simply not kept. It’s gotten to the point that
even though we all know that no one really keeps a New Year’s resolution we
like to go through the charade of believing it anyway.
It’s
like we’re all in on a great conspiracy of pretending. If you believe in my fantasy,
I’ll believe in yours, that way we enable each other to “believe” in our own
fantasies….. . It's almost as if by making the resolution and telling other people about it you've already accomplished it! The bigger the goal the better because you get a bit of pre-glory just by resolving to complete it. It's weird.
I
see it as a symptom of our society’s loose approach to integrity.
We don’t really have
to keep our promises because we can just change or modify our commitment to
match our change of heart. It seems we can always find a good reason or excuse.
Still
our lives are filled with beginnings and endings.
Everything
has a rhythm, a beginning and an end, although not all endings are necessarily final,
many “endings” are really just a sign
that you have reached a certain point and now things need to change.
Knowing
and accepting this can be a great help. It helps you let go and understand that
there is a flow to life and that embracing this flow is one of the keys to
understanding this journey.
Yes,
we feel pain when we lose loved ones, when friendships change, when our lives
seem to take a left turn and things fall apart.
It
can be hard because change is very, very difficult. Our ego personality likes
things just the way they are, sometimes even if those things aren't so pleasant, because it craves continuity.
But
everything has its season, listen to the Byrd’s classic song “Turn, Turn, Turn”
sometime.
The
way I see it is that every day is a new day, a new start. But no matter what
program or new praxis you have committed to, you have to do it every day.
It’s
not like you start on day 1 and poof! you are finished on day 20.
You
have to do it one day at a time. Every day has to be lived day by day.
So
don’t look back and don’t look forward too much.
Stay
right in today.
No
matter where you start, no matter what
you have committed to, do it each day and if you get off track tell yourself
you’ll start again tomorrow.
Create
a discipline and
try to stick to it.
Of
course we all get off track and screw up.
But
so what?
Forget
about it.
Don’t
beat yourself up. Remind yourself that this is a journey and that goals are not
end all’s or even destinations really. They are just things we focus on for a
time that take us down the road.
So
get back on track, forget about yesterday and move forward one day at a time.
It’s
this day to day process of learning, doing right, and striving to be the best
you can be that is important.
That
is the real goal.
It
takes time, probably more than a lifetime.
But
that’s why we’re here.
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