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Getting Clear On What You Really Want
Written
by Steven Griggs | stevengriggs.com
“When things feel
murky and unsure, fine tuning our hearing so as to distinguish the voice of our
Innermost Self brings clarity.”
Kristi Bowman
“Humans tend to cling on to a picture that was painted in
front of their eyes, instead of opening up their mind to the painting that was
already there...”
Lionel Suggs
One of the
hardest questions I ask my clients is: “What do you really want for your life?”
It seems
pretty straight forward- “What do you want?”
But try it, can you answer that question? I mean aside from the obvious, vague answers like
health, win the lottery, love etc.
What do
you really want? Be really specific.
If your
mind goes blank, or defaults to “I don’t know,” or “I've never really thought
about it” or you keep drawing a blank, then a better question might be: “What
don’t I want?”
Some say
that this is a negative approach but I don’t agree. It’s like clearing away the
weeds, it helps you dig down to get a bit clearer.
Seeing
what you don’t want makes room to see
what you do want.
If you don’t
know what you want, how can you change anything?
Be wary and don't get sidetracked by asking too many questions. Try to stay focused on the main question: "What do I really want?"
Be wary and don't get sidetracked by asking too many questions. Try to stay focused on the main question: "What do I really want?"
A key aspect to this question asking is to imagine how you feel about the answers you are giving.
You really
get the insight when you pay attention to the feeling. Does your voice rise a
little and do you feel your pulse and energy quicken when you talk about it or visualize yourself doing it?
These are sure signs that you are in alignment with a true passion.
Another interesting
way to gain an insight into what you really want, is to ask: “If I could be
doing anything in the world right now, with no chance of failure, what would it
be?”
Another
question is: “If you had unlimited wealth, what would you do with your time
every day?”
Be careful when you are asking
these questions and thinking about what you want. Don’t let any limiting thoughts
creep in such as “I don’t know anything about that” or “I wouldn't know where
to start”.
Trust me, when the time comes to start the new action the way forward will show itself.
Just get the “what”, don’t worry about the how, when or where right now, the information will show up at the appropriate
time.
Just tell yourself that you’re
not going to worry about that right now, all is well.
So be totally open with
yourself and visualize what you really want.
As you go through these
exercises you will get clearer and clearer.
And as you do, you will
start moving toward the new you.
You may not notice it at
first but just having the thought of what you want and visualizing it in your mind begins the
process and you’re on your way!
