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Perfection Paralysis
Written by Steven Griggs | stevengriggs.com
The maxim “Nothing but
perfection” may be spelled “Paralysis” Winston Churchill
“Too late I found out you
can’t wait to be perfect, you got to go out and fall down and get up with
everybody else” Ray Bradbury
I think
we’ve all experienced it. It happens when you either can’t start something or
you can’t finish it.
You just
stop.
But what is
happening? Some call it procrastination but procrastination is really the
symptom of this effect.
What is it
that makes us unable to proceed?
It is fear.
It is the
fear of being imperfect, of being ridiculed or judged.
Once we
create something, be it an article, a blog or piece of art and we put it out
there to be read and seen, we become vulnerable.
Now we can
be hurt.
It is a
common thing for many artists and writers to reach a point where they can’t
complete the project. They have to keep reviewing, rechecking and reediting and
touching up. It can get way out of hand.
I have done
this many times myself with my writing and art. One time I had the same picture
sit on my easel for over a year. It was a water color of a broken wine bottle
and I was at the crucial stage of completing the puddles of red wine on the
floor and I couldn’t do it.
The picture
was great up to that point but I was afraid I would ruin it.
Ruin it? This
is an interesting idea because how could I ruin a painting I created? Whatever
I created is my creation, right? I painted it this way and that’s what it is,
period.
Well it
didn’t feel that way.
And that
was when I started realizing that I was fearful. I had a fear (limiting belief )
about not being good enough.
This is a
paralyzing aspect of the limiting belief of poor or low self-esteem.
There
really is no such thing as perfection and if you are striving for perfection,
who is the judge? Who is judging you?
Who do you have to be perfect for?
Many
ancient artisans including the American Indians would purposely make a mistake
in a thing they were creating. Indian women when beading a garment or bag would
put a bead of the wrong color in the item to make it imperfect. It wasn’t
always very obvious but once you found it you knew it was done on purpose.
They believed
that only the Great Spirit could be perfect and that any human trying to be
perfect would be considered arrogant and insulting.
And you
don’t want to mess around with the Great Spirit.
But I think
they were on to something. They were making the statement that they were less
than perfect. They were imperfect.
And that’s
what we are. No one is perfect but we are all perfectly imperfect.
Each one of
us is unique. We are each one of a kind. We don’t look the same, we don’t do
things the same way. We each create our own project, product or artwork our
way. We create it like no one else.
I have read
that some artists and writers reach a point where they are about 80% done but at
that point consider the project basically completed. In other words they know the project
is done except for maybe the final chapter or some last minute touch ups or fill-ins on the
painting.
They
understand that every project reaches a point when it is done. They can’t add one
more word or brush stroke to it. It is done and it’s time to let it go.
It’s time
to move on to the next project.
So how do
we deal with the limiting belief inside that holds us back by seeking
perfection, which keeps us from completing our work and moving on to the next
project?
If you are
a creator, you have to create. If you have to stop because you fear criticism,
then stop. Don’t create. Wait until it feels right.
But a funny
aspect of this is that probably a major reason we create is because we
feel inadequate in some way. We might get some of our creative energy from the very
belief that tries to hold us back.
We can’t
have it both ways. You can’t derive your creativity from a source and then worry about what that source might say about
what you've created?
The answer is you have to
create and then let it go. You have to be willing to show yourself to the world.
So next time you feel hesitant about putting it out there, just do it. Force yourself to take the leap and say: “This is me. This is what I created. I want you to like it and get something from it but I’m only here for a short while and I've got a lot of stuff to do”. Take it or leave it because I don't have time to care.
So next time you feel hesitant about putting it out there, just do it. Force yourself to take the leap and say: “This is me. This is what I created. I want you to like it and get something from it but I’m only here for a short while and I've got a lot of stuff to do”.
If you
fear a critic, have him bring his writings and his art and then you two can sit
down and have a talk. You won't have to worry about that because a real creator doesn't criticize another artist.
Your fellow creators know what it's like, they have been through the same struggles as you so you have nothing to fear from them.
The ones that love you and love your work, they are the ones to care about.
That leaves everyone else and they don't get a vote.
Your fellow creators know what it's like, they have been through the same struggles as you so you have nothing to fear from them.
The ones that love you and love your work, they are the ones to care about.
That leaves everyone else and they don't get a vote.
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