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What is Happiness?
Written by Steven Griggs | stevengriggs.com
“People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within.”
Romana L. Anderson
If someone asks you if you are happy, what do you say? What is your definition of happiness?
Can you honestly say you’re happy? And when you say it, do you really believe it?
I think for most people the answer tends to be tentative or conditional. It’s almost as if we’re afraid to say unequivocally, I’m happy!
This is not to say there aren’t many very happy people, I’m sure there are.
I’m just asking you to watch how you answer this question. Watch and see if there is any hesitation or a need to explain or clarify.
I think when most people think of happiness, they view it as a destination or a place somewhere in the future. “When I’m rich then I’ll be happy”. “When I meet the person of my dreams, then I’ll be happy”. When I have the right job, the right house, the right friends, the right car, etc., it goes on and on.
Get these items and you will be happy.
It’s always conditional.
We been programed and conditioned by our culture to always look for happiness as something “out there”, a set of circumstances that will bring happiness.
I believe that real happiness is to be found moment to moment, in brief experiences.
This could be a series of experiences or it could just be brief moment of it here and there, but I don’t think there is any extended, never ending experience of bliss.
It’s just not the nature of our experience here on this planet.
We face challenges.
This is part of our journey. If everything was totally blissful and perfect, why would we need to be here? What would be the point?
Personally I try not to define the future or regret or mourn the past. Any time you are looking forward or looking back, you are not looking at now.
You are missing out on right now.
Try to be here, right now, in this moment. Really pay attention to everything in the here and now.
If you can capture the joy and beauty and irony and humor in the small everyday moments, I believe you will experience happiness.
How do you find those moments? You pay attention, you are appreciative and open hearted. You try to embrace every experience with all your senses. You try to really “be there” and be thankful that you are.
Find those moments. You’ll know them when you feel them.
This is the real treasure that we call happiness.