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Thursday, February 2, 2012

Wishing And Hoping

No Limits | The Freedom Coach

Wishing and Hoping

Written by Steven Griggs |

“If you have a goal, write it down. If you do not write it down, you do not have a goal - you have a wish.”                                                                               
Steve Maraboli                                                            
To be a warrior is not a simple matter of wishing to be one. It is rather an endless struggle that will go on to the last minute of our lives. Nobody is born a warrior, in exactly the same way no man is born an average man. We make ourselves into one or the other”                                                                                           Carlos Castaneda

According to the Free Dictionary, the definition of a wish is: A desire, longing, or strong inclination for a specific thing….something desired or longed for.
Hope is defined as:  A wish or desire accompanied by confident expectation of its fulfillment.
The main difference is that wishing for something is not really connected to an expectation of it really happening. A wish is disconnected from reality.
Hoping for something implies that there is some reasonable expectation that it could or will happen.
While hoping is better than wishing, neither of them actually set in motion the mechanism wherein you create the thing or outcome you desire.
It’s like dreaming of winning the lottery but you never a buy a ticket!
The missing ingredient is action. Without action every idea, desire, wish or hope will remain unrealized.
On the flip side, continually dwelling in the realm of wishing and hoping can actually create problems. When your hopes and wishes are not immediately forthcoming, frustration and anger rise up to take the place of optimism.
This will lead to resistance and may actually push the things or outcomes you desire away.
A little bit of wishing is probably normal, those fleeting thoughts we all have that flash through our minds. All of us day dream and run scenarios about things we wish or hope for.
I think in situations where your current circumstances may be a bit grim or are actually really bad, it would be understandable to drift off into daydreams of a better future.
Don’t let that happen.
Yes, you need to dream and have hope, but I think the trick would be to keep the dream and hopes visible on the horizon. In other words, visualize a goal that is short term, feasible and reachable.
By having the goal based on something real and achievable, the closer you get, the more reachable that goal becomes. This in turn makes the next step easier.
Every step you take reinforces the next step and all the steps add up to real progress.
By getting clear on the dream/hope/wish, being proactive by taking action, by working your plan in some way every day, you will inevitably reach the goal.
The nature of plans is that they change and as you progress yours may change too.
By being in the action phase of creating, other opportunities will open up to you. You will start to have options.
There is nothing like having options! It is so much better than the alternative.
So watch the wishing, keep the hoping focused on what’s attainable..... .
And dream on……