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Friday, December 23, 2011

Are You Complex?

No Limits | The Freedom Coach

Are You Complex?

Written by Steven Griggs |

“Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.”                                                                                                              Walt Whitman

At certain times in your life has it sometimes seemed that you didn’t know what direction to take? That there were so many choices you couldn’t choose the right one?

Have you felt pulled in too many directions?

I have a coaching client who was going through a difficult time. He couldn’t make up his mind whether to be an artist and to get his Masters Degree in art, become a Firefighter or to join the Peace Corp. These were probably just his current ideas.

He is an excellent, talented artist and physically very active. He could do any of the things he was thinking about.

We talked many times about his situation. It was hard for him because he is very passionate about things so when he thinks about doing something he becomes 100% committed to it….., at that moment.

As we talked I explained that he really had to follow his deeper feelings and separate them from his “logical” left brain lineal thoughts, the one that asks questions like: Is this the“right” thing to do?  Will this disappoint your friends and family? Will this meet my family’s expectations….?

I told him that ultimately it didn’t matter what path he took as any one of them is reversible with little or no negative consequence (except maybe a little lost money) and that he didn’t need to think that any one was exclusive to the others.

No matter what he was a talented artist, that wouldn’t change. He could do his art wherever he was, he could paint intermittently or work like a maniac for weeks at a time.  It was up to him.

He could also go to paramedic school if he chose. Being trained as a paramedic would never be a bad thing and would always come in handy.

Working towards getting his Master’s Degree would take a little time but would be a process that would allow him to work at any pace he felt like. He could also stop or change course at any time.

None of these paths were irreversible.

He came to realize that he was not one dimensional, that he was a complex guy, full of creativity. And that creativity took many forms. He came to see that his real job on this planet was to pursue these different paths. And along the way he would be creating and helping others while expanding himself.

We are not one dimensional beings.

We’ve been conditioned to be good feeder breeders and stay within the tribal expectations. Go to school, get a good job, work hard, marry, live the white picket life….

Are you complex? Don’t settle. Live your dreams, live your life as you see it. This may be the only chance you get……